Monday


On the differences between men and women by Dave Berry

I find this story amusing to me. Considering this is how girls and guys think. We hardly ever get anything because guys never listen at all. They listen to what we say but they dont think about it depth like we do. Women tend to think too much into things, whereas guys minds are normally someplace else. Neither of the two ever asked each other what it was exactly they were doing with each other. With the lack of communication, Elaine felt completely different from what Roger was feeling. It is obviously that Elaine wants more with Roger but she does not know how to go about it. Without talking to each other about their relationship, it’s because Elaine to become confused at what was going on between her and Roger. She felt as if Roger was not interested and from Roger's perspective, everything was going fine and normal. In this situtation of course the man should have asked what was wrong, even if that meant her getting mad at him. A guy should never just agree to make the women happy if he has no clue what she's talking about.

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Friday


"Can't We Talk?" (condensed from: You Just Don't Understand) by Deborah Tannen

After reading Ms. Tannen's articles i've noticed that alot of couples argue over the little things which gets into bigger arguements. Especially the situation where the women had a scar that she thought made her breast look weird and then the man suggested plastic surgery. She got angry but he wasn't saying he wanted her to get plastic surgery he was just giving her advice because if she was unhappy with it there was always an option. Women tend to seek support from their friends when men do not want support they want to show that they have the upperhand, the higher status. When a women asks a man whats on his mind and he says nothing i do agree it makes her upset because she's got planty of things on her mind, so what is he keeping from her? When in reality he just feels that its useless information that he doesntneed to share at his own home when he's comfortable. He might share something with a close friend outside of the home but he doesnt feel like he has to with his wife, someone who knows him and cares about him. A woman would be hurt to find out he was telling other people things and not her but she has to understand he isnt doing it to hurt her. It just comes down to the point that girls and guys will always think differently.

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Monday


Differnces between how men and women socialize and communitcate.

Men have a firm sense of direction, they need to trace the game, catch it, and find the way home, while women can see what’s happening around the house, spot an approaching danger, they notice changes in the children’s behavior and appearance. Men’s brains are programmed to hunt, which explains their narrow range of vision, while women’s brains are able to handle a wider range of information.
Women have a type of communication that builds, maintains, and strengthens the relationship. Their communication is nurturing, has emotional expression, empathy, and support. While men are usually the experts in task accomplishment and addressing questions about facts. They analyze issues and solve problems. Their communication is competitive, lacking sentimentality, analyzing, and focusing aggressively on task accomplishment.
It is said that men and women communicate differently because growing up as children girls tend to play with a single friend which gives her alot of time to talk and spend time listening and understanding another person, while boys play in big groups often competeing for the leadership in the group which makes them competitive and makes them try and convince everyone they are better. this shows that boys growing into men use talking to emphasize status while girls growing into women use talking to make connections. Other people believe that different habits of men and women are explained by different roles in the process of evolution. Even though life conditions have changed, both men and women tend to follow their own biological programs.
One problem betwen men and women is that men expect women to think and feel what they think and feel and women expect men to think and feel what they are thinking and feeling. When this does not happen problems arise. If men and women could accept the fact that they are not the same problems wouldnt occur, but each sex always relies on the other one understanding them
Women and men sometimes perceive the same messages to have different meanings. In fact, it may be as a result of the differences in message interpretation that the "battle of the sexes" occurs. Women are normally the relationship specialists and men are the task specialists.


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http://www-personal.umich.edu/~kruger/ep10.html

http://www.sandrabeckwith.com/articles/m-w-communicate.htm

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